If you want to stay in a healthy relationship, Keep Improving Yourself.

This is what I learn from my current relationship, like a most of the relationship, we have been went through the hard time, we fight for a little thing, maybe for the ex-boyfriend or felt insecure between each other. We tried to solve all of our problem through negotiation, sometime, it's not about communication itself, is about how we choose to react with most of the situation. We know the problem, and come out with the solution, but it's hard compromise with each other.  We want our partner to understand us, but thing doesn't works like this.

The best way to be in a healthy relationship is to keep improving yourself. It's true that you are really into you partner, and even willing to do anything for them. Try to think about how you and your partner fall with each other from the first time. You are curious with him and you felt he charm and someone might hold your hand till the last. That's because you are not understand him the way you do right now. He is mystery and that's why you want to know him better.

When you stay to live with him everyday, you will find out he might not what you think he really is. He might have some habits that you no like it, and you try to think about the good side of it. When you stop finding the good side of him, he lose his charm and the feeling he gave to you on the first time you met him. An advice to those who are in a relationship now, learn to be independence, learn to love yourself everyday, try to be the one who you want to be with very day. Stop finding the correct one, be the correct one. It will be much more easy to achieve.

Try to learn new things for the benefit of you, set a target, writing a blog, share about your opinion. Everyone like to be around with those positive thinker, it gives them hope, and let them feel secure, don't be sad if someone leave you. You deserve to be a better you, take sometime to rethink about the purpose of yourself, and keep moving forward. Don't stop at the moment, invest yourself.

When you are moving your focus from only him or she to yourself, you are making your relationship in a healthy way, but don't hide your emotion to your partner, if you don't feel the way you and your partner is having now, tell them, but don't let you emotion control yourself.

You will find out you will be more confident and attractive to your partner.

How I manage and scdualing my time.

Today I will share about how I handle my time schedule and how I mange my time.

August will be a busy week for me, beside than 4 labs session, 4 midterm exam, research and also events. So today I gonna do some changer for my schedule.

First, I gonna list out all my tasks and due date, that make me visualize it. It's base on the timeline of my semester. It will be something like this.

As you can see, all the tasks are long term project. To avoid handling out of you capability, you must know where is your limits and your knowledge for the tasks you are gonna to choose.

This semester, my class schedule is not really pack, so I'm able to one of two tasks for the next few months.  

Second, break the long term schedule become monthly or weekly schedule. 

I will always assign a day to fully concentrate on ONE task. That make sure I will not get disturbed by other thing, and always arrange your schedule base on the priority. If some tasks needed more time to contribute on it, arrange more time to it.

Third, the purpose of doing plan and scheduling is for you to know when you need to do waht. But some time, changer is faster than planing, you might have some situation to break your original plan. It's ok for you to delay sometime, but the follow up step must be done after you get disturbing by other stuff. 

Through out all the scheduling and planning, sometime, we just need some motivation to boost you up, and you will enjoy every moment in your life :) 

Zootopia- Judy and Nick~

Recently I watched another Disney movie, Zootopia, its amazed me again. Talking about the characters, especially for these two lovely characters Judy Hopps and Nick Wild.

The story is around of Judy's dream to be the first bunny police officer, and she believe the modern mammal metropolis of Zootopia will makes her dream comes true, - a place where no matter what you are, from the biggest elephant to the smallest shrew, you can be anything. 

Soon, she realized it's not that easy to face with other big, tough animals there, and to chase her dreams, she jumps into a case to find out the missing Zootopis citizens with her 'partner' Nick Wild to solve the case.

Disney's movie always bring back our childhood dreams, like Nick Wild taught us about shouldn't just look at their appearance, don't judge other too soon before you really know them.

and Judy Hopps shows us her possibility, although she is just a small bunny but she can achieved her dream with her hardwork. 

A must watch movie on this season :)

Make Your Conversation Meaningful

We are talking everyday, no matter you are talking to yourself or with other, we are spending incredible time on talking. But have you realized that most of our topic are actually trash talks.

What is trash talks? Basically is all about gossip and talking rumors. Something not really matter to our self and other. How many of you have really think about is that necessary to be say?

Most of the time, trash talks are the easier way to find the topic, and maybe the other way to seek for attention. What I means of seeking attention is not a bad thing, if group of people going out to chill, but the whole trip are doing quietly, it's kind of weird, that kind of person are normally the center of the topic, people like to talk with them, because you will never feel boring.

Conversation is kind of influence; words is powerful, words can hurt people but can also help others.

 How's a conversation can help other?

Just like talking with a experiences leader, he will inspiring you to be someone great, from their stories and words, we can feel that the power behind it.

And those conversation which motivate us basically with these 3 points.
1) Meaning
2) Hope
3) Purpose

Talking with elder, their experiences and knowledge will guild us away from the wrong paths.

Make a conversation with others, sometime a simple conversation will explore who you are, how confident are you, and your background. If you interview two person, one is the active person in club and society, the other one rarely join event and other thing, from a simple interview like introduce yourself, you can easily observe two different reaction, one is full of confident, one may not really. This is because if you are often to due with people, you know exactly what you should answer, and you will do so.

Conversation is easy, but how much is really influence other. We tend to read those great people's words, from there we get motivate by them, and maybe you can be one of them.

Make a conversation that can be inspiring others, maybe they just need a little motivation from you, and they can achieved more than he know.

Education must moving on

A lot of the drop out become the billionaire after they leave school.

But their learning process have never been stop.

No matter you're learning yourself or go to school, it's all a part of the education, just the system is different.

When more and more people think that school are not longer the place provide them knowledge, but just a place for a piece of paper.

Why should I go to school when everything i can get from internet?

Well, at least you will get a paper to prove you're qualified. Or even worse is, people use the name of education to earn money instead of the quality itself.

Shouldn't we start to rethink our education system itself are still longer apply in nowadays?

Distance between Me and We.

Everyone are independence at most of the time, beside than when you need other help to achieved on something, like business, assignment, or doing event. There is something much more easy way to do it together rather than doing it alone.

But actually we are separate the tasks into smaller parts and distribute to every individual. From a big problem, we make it into a small problem by dividing it.

We are like a container, when we learn something, we are adding the water inside it; when we are contribute something, when we are applying what we learnt, we are actually using the water inside the container. So if you keeps using it without adding it, end up you will be running up yours value.

We must be able to balance the time between me and we, its keep our self update and adding the value of us.

For me, I'm always try to learn more and apply it in my daily.

Read
Reading always is the best choice to gain more knowledge, We need to keep our self up to date with your study filed and to be able to understand it.

Apply.
After you have learnt something new,  try to apply it in your daily life. Link all the related thing together, its help you to keep your mind active. If you can apply it well, it's mean you are not understand it well. Reading help us in knowledge, but apply it help us to understand it.

Arrange ME Time.
If you used to be busy with some project in a period, after you finished it, try to arrange sometime for you to rest and listed out all the thing which can be improve next time. You have running out your water, and need to  refuel back. Its help you be prepared for next journey.

What you like doesn't mean what you need

What you like doesn't mean what you need it, sometime we are giving up a lot of time or money on the things that doesn't really matter for us, for example, buying a new handphone, does you really need for it? If talking about utility, maybe you just use it for playing games or sending message, the basic requirement maybe just get a phone with internet access and can transfer the massage between each other. Maybe a lot of us just want is material life. 

You need to know how to control yourself,  you need to be responsible to balance your income and outcome, chasing the latest technology is not a necessary, it's all base on yours requirement.

Here is some tips for your to determiner what is actually you like and need.

1) Comparison

Compare between two or more similar items. Sometime famous brand doesn't really has the best quality, but the new raise company may be given a rational prices but the same quality with others. New brands doesn't mean they are not provided the quality.

2) Necessity

What you like doesn't means you really need it. This is the reason you need to ask yourself before you buy an item. Before you purchase on anything, ask yourself, do you really need it? Most of the time we are buying thing we not really need it, just for the feeling that "I might use it in the future", but trust me, most of the time, we will throw it at the end.

3) Utility

Prices often use refect he quality of the product, but sometime, even you have a very powerful tools, like a high processing power computer, but if you are not really utilize it, maybe end up you just use it for playing games or watching movie.